Relationships are sacred journeys—two energies merging to create something greater than the sum of their parts. Over the years, as a Trustful Indian Astrologer, many women have come to me with questions not just about their destiny or love life, but about how to understand the men in their lives.

They ask:

  • “Why is he pulling away?”

  • “How do I know if he truly loves me?”

  • “Why does he avoid emotional conversations?”

  • “What does he really want from a relationship?”

Through the lens of astrology and life experience, I offer you not quick tricks or manipulation tactics—but deep, spiritual insights that can truly help you build lasting love with a man.

1. Understand His Elemental Nature

In Vedic astrology, every person's nature is governed by elements—fire, earth, air, or water—based on their moon sign, ascendant, and planetary placements.

  • Fire signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius): Passionate, action-driven. They crave appreciation and want to feel like heroes. Avoid nagging or doubting their ambition.

  • Earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn): Practical, steady, dependable. They need consistency and respect for their efforts. Don't push them emotionally too fast.

  • Air signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius): Intellectual, communicative, curious. They enjoy light-hearted connection and mental stimulation. Be open-minded.

  • Water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces): Emotional, intuitive, sensitive. They need trust, emotional security, and loyalty. Never betray their vulnerability.

Knowing his element gives you insight into how he loves, what he fears, and what helps him feel safe in a relationship.

2. Respect is the Foundation of Love

For most men, respect matters even more than love. If a man feels respected by you—appreciated for his effort, acknowledged in his decisions, and supported in his mission—he will stay loyal and deeply connected.

  • Don't compare him to other men.

  • Don't try to control or “fix” him.

  • Instead, believe in his growth potential and gently inspire change through encouragement.

Astrological Insight: A man with a strong Sun (ego, self-worth) needs admiration. If his Sun is weak, he may crave validation—be gentle with such a man, but don't mother him.

3. Emotional Expression Looks Different for Men

Many women expect men to express love the way they do: through words, feelings, or vulnerability. But men often show love through actions, not just emotions.

  • Fixing things

  • Making plans for the future

  • Protecting you

  • Offering help instead of deep conversation

Don't mistake emotional quietness for indifference. Learn to recognize the language of love he speaks.

Vedic Note: Men with strong Mars or Saturn placements tend to show love through duty and responsibility, rather than flowery language.

4. Give Him Space Without Creating Distance

Just as the moon waxes and wanes, a man also goes through inner cycles. Sometimes he needs time to process emotions or reconnect with his masculine energy.

If he pulls away briefly, don't chase—observe.

Let him have space, and trust that if the bond is genuine, he will return with deeper clarity. The masculine grows in solitude; the feminine grows in connection. Understanding this balance is key.

Mantra for Patience:

“Om Shanti Shanti Shanti” – Chant this during times of emotional tension to invoke peace and trust.

5. Don't Lose Yourself Trying to Win Him

Too often, women overgive in relationships—emotionally, physically, spiritually—hoping the man will respond with equal devotion. But love is not earned through sacrifice alone.

A high-value man is drawn to a high-value woman: someone who respects herself, holds boundaries, and radiates inner joy—not just need.

  • Maintain your spiritual and personal practices.

  • Keep your friendships alive.

  • Have a vision beyond the relationship.

Your light will draw the right partner—not your sacrifice.

6. Honor His Masculine Energy While Staying Rooted in Yours

The sacred dance of masculine and feminine energy is not about domination or submission, but harmony.

Masculine energy (regardless of gender) thrives on:

  • Purpose

  • Direction

  • Problem-solving

Feminine energy thrives on:

  • Intuition

  • Nurturing

  • Flow and creativity

When a woman embraces her inner Shakti, she becomes a powerful source of inspiration for the man to rise into his highest Shiva energy.

Astrological Note: Venus (feminine love) and Mars (masculine drive) should be in harmony in synastry charts for strong chemistry and respect.

7. Watch His Actions, Not Just His Words

Many women are hurt because they believe promises over patterns.

If a man says he loves you but disrespects you, ignores your needs, or doesn't show up for you—listen to what his actions are saying.

A real man:

  • Shows up on time

  • Follows through

  • Keeps his word

  • Protects your dignity

Trust your intuition. The Moon in your chart reveals your emotional intelligence—use it wisely.

8. Help Him Grow, Not Change

Men don't like being told they are wrong. But they are deeply receptive to admiration and guidance.

Instead of criticism, say:

  • “I love when you do this.”

  • “You're so good at this, I'd love more of it.”

  • “It makes me feel really loved when…”

Guide him toward better behavior with grace, not force.

9. Check Your Compatibility – It Matters

In Vedic astrology, relationship strength is often assessed through Kundali Matching (Guna Milan). This isn't just superstition—it's a tool to understand:

  • Emotional compatibility

  • Communication styles

  • Long-term potential

  • Challenges and karmic lessons

Before giving your all to a relationship, consider whether your energies align astrologically.

10. Know When to Let Go

Sometimes, no matter how much love you give, the relationship does not serve your highest self. If a man constantly brings pain, confusion, or disrespect—walk away with dignity.

As your Trustful Indian Astrologer, I say this with love: Not every man is your soulmate. Some are karmic teachers. Learn, release, and move forward.

Final Blessing from Your Trustful Indian Astrologer

Dear divine soul, loving a man is not about changing him or losing yourself. It's about standing in your truth, radiating your worth, and inviting him into a space of mutual respect and spiritual growth.

Be the kind of woman who knows her power and uses it not to control—but to uplift. The right man will rise to meet you there.

May your relationships be filled with peace, passion, and purpose.

May your heart be cherished, not tested.

And may the stars guide you to a love that honors your soul. Here's a relationship guidance article tailored to women, written from the warm and spiritually insightful voice of a Love Problem Specialist in Australia, offering deep yet practical advice on how women can better understand men in relationships.

With divine blessings,

Your Trustful Indian Astrologer